Getting the match is the easy bit of online dating. Most chats die in the gap between matching and knowing what to send. SayMore, the tool built for exactly that moment, is now a proper iPhone app. SayMore Dating went live on the App Store this week, it's free to download, and it puts replies, openers and an honest read on your chats on the phone where your dating happens.
We liked SayMore when it launched on the web, and the app is the form it was always heading for. Dating happens on your phone, in small pockets of time, usually two messages deep in a chat you're not sure how to move forward. The app meets you there. We've been using it since launch, and this review covers what it does, what it costs and whether it deserves a place on your home screen.
What the SayMore app does
The app has one job: finding you the right words at the moment you're stuck. There are no cheesy pickup lines and nothing you'd be embarrassed to send, just messages that sound like you on a good day. It's built around three everyday dating moments.
Replies first, because that's the one you'll use most. A message lands and you don't know what to say back, so you screenshot the chat, drop it into SayMore, pick a tone, and get three replies you can send: warm, witty or direct. Tap to copy the one that sounds most like you and you're back in the conversation in seconds.
Openers work the same way. Give the app someone's profile, a screenshot or pasted text, and it writes three opening messages that pick up on something the person wrote. An opener that mentions the dog in their photos or the joke in their bio proves you paid attention, and it gets replies that a plain hey never will.
Then there's the chat read, still our favourite feature. Show the app a whole conversation and it tells you where things stand: who seems keener, the green flags, and anything worth a second look. It's like showing the chat to a sensible friend who never gets bored of you asking.
Built for the way you date
The web version at saymoredating.com is still there and works well. But the app is the better way to use SayMore because it removes the friction. Your matches message you on your phone. Your screenshots live on your phone. With the app on your home screen the whole loop happens in one place: screenshot the chat, open SayMore, tap to copy your reply, and paste it straight back into Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, Match, OurTime, Plenty of Fish or wherever the conversation is happening. No switching devices and no emailing screenshots to yourself.
Screenshots are the detail that makes the app click. Most of us screenshot our chats anyway, and the app reads a screenshot as easily as pasted text, so going from message received to good reply sent takes seconds.
Made for grown-ups getting back out there
SayMore is aimed squarely at people returning to dating after a divorce, the end of a long relationship or a few quiet years. If you've come back to the apps and found they've changed beyond recognition since you were last single, this is who it was designed for. The tone is calm and kind rather than laddish, and the suggestions read like a thoughtful friend rather than a pickup artist. It also suits anyone who's funny in person but freezes in a text box, or whose matches sit unanswered for days because replying feels like work.
What the app costs
SayMore Dating is free to download and you can try it before you spend anything. For unlimited replies, openers and chat reads there's SayMore Pro, which starts with a three day free trial and then costs £9.99 a week. Billing goes through your Apple account rather than a separate signup, so you can see, manage and cancel the subscription from your iPhone settings whenever you like. Weekly pricing suits dipping in for a month or two while you find your feet again; if you plan to use it long term, keep an eye on the total, the same as with any weekly subscription.
Privacy done properly
For an app that reads your private conversations, privacy is the first question worth asking, and SayMore's answer is the right one. The text and screenshots you submit are used to generate your suggestions, they aren't stored on SayMore's servers afterwards, and your conversations are never used to train AI models. What happens in your chats stays in your chats.
Getting the app
SayMore Dating is on the App Store now. It needs iOS 17 or later, it's a tiny download at under five megabytes, and it's rated 17+, which is standard for dating tools. It's also brand new, so don't expect a long ratings history on the store yet. There's no Android app for now; if you're on Android, or you'd rather try SayMore without installing anything, the web version at saymoredating.com does the same job in your browser.
Our verdict
Most dating tools promise you more matches. SayMore fixes the part that goes wrong after the match, the conversation, and the iPhone app puts that fix where it belongs: next to your dating apps. If knowing what to say is the bit of online dating you dread, download it, use the free go, and see whether the right words come easier.
Download SayMore free on the App Store
Frequently asked questions
What is the SayMore app?
SayMore Dating is an iPhone app for people who get stuck on what to say on dating apps. It writes three replies or openers from a message, profile or screenshot, in a warm, witty or direct tone, and gives an honest read on any chat.
Is the SayMore app free?
The app is free to download and you get a free go to see whether the suggestions sound like you. SayMore Pro removes the limits, with a three day free trial and then £9.99 a week, cancelled any time through your Apple account.
Does the app work with Tinder, Hinge and Bumble?
It works with any dating app, including Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, Match, OurTime and Plenty of Fish. Paste text or add a screenshot from whichever app you're using and the suggestions are written to fit.
What iPhone do I need?
Any iPhone running iOS 17 or later. The download is under five megabytes, so it won't trouble your storage.
Is there an Android version?
Not yet. Android users can use SayMore on the web at saymoredating.com, which does the same job in the browser.
Is it private?
Yes. The text and screenshots you submit are used to create your result, and they aren't stored afterwards or used to train AI models.